Talking with your kids about dating
Just as you enjoy a piece of cake one delicious forkful at a time rather than swallowing it whole; take the time to savor each minute of this phase of your relationship rather than rushing ahead. Here's a common misstep divorced women make when it comes to new relationships: As soon as they've been on two dates with a guy, they want to introduce him to their kids.
These kids already have a mom and a dad, and being told to start calling someone else Mom or Dad only serves to confuse them or make them feel awkward; and it could even cause tension with their actual mom or dad.
You won't like every thing about his kids, and they won't like every single thing about you.
But you will both be able to trust that your opinions are honest and the developing relationship is genuine. Make sure you don't let your new boyfriend approach your kids like they are Oscars that can be won if his performance is impressive enough.
Not only is this strategy unfair, it often backfires.
It's not fair because it involves manipulating the emotions of children simply to further your love life. It backfires because when you start off acting like a fan rather than a friend, you often end up pretending to be someone you're not.